soul seeker's Page

. I have been doing some soul searching. It started a few years ago after me and my ex-wife broke up. I fell into a world of self pity and regret. I thought my life was over. She damaged me in ways I never felt before. I was heart broken. I lost 30 lbs in 3 months. I lost sleep. IT took about 2 years to get over what she did to me. My life hit rock bottom. I decided to climb out of my self pity and try to move on. I dated a few times.

Love can suck sometimes. Why is it so hard to love and trust after heartbreak? It is amazing that I question my thoughts and feeling and start thinking about it.
Is it worth falling in love again? What if I get hurt again? What if it is the wrong person...etc? There are so many questions that make us think way too much about love and what will happen. That is where I get my self-lost the most. Love comes from the heart, and the brain just gets in the way. We protect our selves’ way too much sometimes. Keep loving that is the key!

Maybe it is just the way I think, but why do most marriages do not work these days, why are their so many people falling in and out of love?
It takes times to learn about each other in a relationship. Even when you are married you are learning about each other.
Here is the catch, you are still learning about you. In the past I changed so much in my marriage and so did she. When someone finds out more about them selves’ relationships and love could shift, and then what is said next? "This is not the person I married!" Then the changes take place, the abuse, the cheating, and the lies.
When you truly can look in the mirror and see who you really are and understand your self, you will know who exactly you want as a partner. Do not settle for less then what you want, make love permanent, not temporary. All of us want to be loved by who we are. Just do not give up.

Love really makes the world go round. It is how you distribute love that makes it a difference. There are no rules. There is no right or wrong. There is only you and how you want your life. You create your own reality. If you are not happy in life then make changes. The path of life can change at any time.

Picture yourself on a narrow road that road represents parts of your life that make you stand out and unique. On this road you have a change to find people more like you. The chances of finding true love on this road are pretty good but you must have patience.

Now see your self down a wide road with people everywhere. The chances of finding love here is great of course but how long would it last. What will happen at the first cross road? The chances of taking the same road are 50/50. Do not get me wrong. I hope it does work. I believe in love and what it offers life. The right person is out there for all of us.

You should love life when you are single as well as being with someone. I miss having someone in my life. She is out there for me and I will find her someday. I have been on different dating sites to expand my options. What I noticed the most is that you see a few people actually try to hook up. How are people suppose to date if no one wants to share there heart?

There is a great country song, “Get back up dust your self off, get back in the saddle and give it one more try…” I know I said it already but it is important. Love your self first, find out who you really are. When the right person finds you, there is nothing you have to change. That also goes for you. Lets the person you are with be who they are.
The only thing I say about it all is NEVER SETTLE! Never settle for what you really are looking for Just be happy with you and who you are with.

Let life happen. It is a long road and a lot of mountains to climb. I really do not agree with what life puts in front of me but I do what I can to make the best of it.


I have been doing a lot of reading on life and deep the soul really is. I love to just sit and watch people. Observe different personalities and just wonder what they are thinking. I like reading the profiles I see on this site, a lot of interesting people. Is love out there? I hope so!

I believe in love at first site. I believe a soul can connect. Sometimes it just connects at different levels. It is scary to give my heart. I know what hurt feels like. Trust lost. There was a time I remember when trust was lost after the fact. Now we have to proof trust before the fact. Love was never meant to be complicated. We want to love and be loved at least most of us do. It is what we desire.

Most of us on this site have been married before. We got married for a reason, hopefully it was for love. They all ended for different reasons. What happens is we carry the negative from our past relationship. Then we tell our selves that this one better not do this, or do that, or have this quality, etc...You get my point.

What I try to do is bring the positive things I enjoyed from my past relations. my soul mate will have all the qualities I liked so much. The catch is you already know how you do not like to be treated. But they do not need to know that.

If people know what you do not like, it is simple they will not do it. But that means they are not going to be them selves. So when you see someone for who they really are you see the soul.

I want love. Sometimes we have to fight for it. Sometimes it comes easy.
The fact is that it will come. I get tired of waiting but do not want to settle.

What if true love came by already, what if I missed it? Could it happen? Not sure. I have to take chances and give my heart, if I do not try, I will never know.